Love Language Test
For each pair, pick the one that would mean more to you from a partner. If both appeal, go with your first instinct.
Your answers are not stored. This test is for self-reflection and is not a diagnosis.
What are the 5 love languages?
The idea comes from Gary Chapman's book The 5 Love Languages: people tend to express and receive love in five main ways, and partners often feel unloved when they speak different "languages".
- Words of affirmation: Being told you are loved, appreciated and admired lands deeply with you.
- Quality time: Undivided attention is what makes you feel loved.
- Receiving gifts: Thoughtful gifts are visible proof that someone was thinking of you.
- Acts of service: Actions speak louder than words for you.
- Physical touch: Physical closeness is how you feel connected and safe: hugs, holding hands, a hand on your shoulder.
How to use your result
Your top one or two languages show what makes you feel most loved. The most useful step is to share your result with a partner and ask them to take the test too: most couples find at least one language one of them values far more than the other.
How the test is scored
Each of the 20 questions asks you to choose between two of the five languages, and every pair appears twice, so each language can score between 0 and 8. Your ranking is the order of those scores. This quiz is our own and is not affiliated with Gary Chapman or the official quiz.
What the research says
Studies support the general idea that feeling understood in how you like to be loved is linked to relationship satisfaction, but the evidence that people have one fixed love language, or that matching languages predicts success, is limited. Use your result as a conversation starter.
Frequently asked questions
What is the most common love language?
In large online samples, quality time and words of affirmation are usually the most common top languages, and receiving gifts the least common.
Can you have two love languages?
Yes. Many people score almost equally on two languages, and the result shows your full ranking for that reason.
Can my love language change?
It can shift with life stage and circumstances: a stressful period at work, for example, can make acts of service feel far more important.
Is there a love language test for couples?
Each partner can take this test separately and compare their rankings: the result page has a link you can send to your partner.